I think part of growing up is ridding yourself of the toxic people in your life. Not that you don’t have contact with them, I understand some people you can’t cut out entirely, but just limiting your interactions with them.

I have an incredibly knack for people unloading their BS on me. Negative Nancies are drawn to me. People with a “flare for the dramatic” love to cling to me. Seriously, even strangers love to tell me their problems. I am not sure why.

But I have really been intentional about eliminating this unnecessary drama from my life and from my close circle of people. I have been more intentional about where I spend my time and who I share my thoughts with.  I have come to realize that just because I can help someone, doesn’t mean I have to. 

That thought sounds very cold, especially written out. But there have been many times in my life where I have put my own needs on the back burner in order to make someone else feel better. And it has hurt me, on multiple occasions.

I heard this quote the other day, and have no idea where it originated, but I love it.

I will not set fire to myself to keep you warm.

I think that about sums it up.

I found this also about toxic people, and I thought it was more enlightening than hours worth of expensive therapy. Toxic people don’t necessarily mean to be toxic, and often really do care about us. It doesn’t mean we love them any less, but it means we must recognize what is good and healthy for us as individuals first and foremost.



Oh, and also, I am catching up on my last few letters of the A to Z challenge today. Sorry if I am overposting! What a tough thing this has proven to be. 🙂


Part of the A to Z Challenge… A post a day for the month of April to cover topics beginning with each letter of the alphabet.